Women want a cross between Ryan Gosling in The Notebook and Ryan Gosling in Crazy, Stupid, Love. Women want Ryan Gosling. I kid. Well, we do, but that’s not going to help your situation.
If you are looking for wife material, and not a ratchet piece of arm candy, then this advice will do wonders for your “game!” Furthermore, these tips apply at ALL stages: The approach, The date, The Courtship and Marriage. I know…I’m awesome. So, let’s get started!
Before meeting, all anyone has to judge you on are your looks, and maybe your personality, so…
PRACTICE GOOD HYGIENE. I can’t tell you how many potential suitors struck out because they smelled (their body or their breath), didn’t take care of their teeth or just looked sloppy. Having poor hygiene is a sign that you don’t take pride in your appearance, and possibly have low self esteem, which is a huge turnoff to women. If we have to get waxed, plucked, tweezed, nipped, tucked, whitened, tanned, shaved, and softened, the least you can do is trim your nose hairs.
COMPLIMENT HER BEAUTY, NOT HER LOOKS. There IS a difference. Most good looking women have been ogled and harassed since they were in elementary school. Gross, I know! So, telling a woman how sexy she is and drooling over her big bottom and ample bosom will quickly place you in the same category as those other run-of-the-mill guys that have been, and continue to be, the bane of her existence. DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. Beauty comes from within as well as without, so it is much more to say a woman is beautiful because her beauty encompasses many things – her energy, her spirit, her vibe, her personality, etc. Telling a woman she’s beautiful will score more points than exclaiming, “Daaaaaamn” as she’s walking down the street.
ACT LIKE YOU WANT TO GET TO KNOW HER, and not her nether regions: Sex talk too soon is a TURN OFF. It tells the woman, ‘I lack self-control,’ ‘I’m immature,’ or ‘I’m a creep.’ There is more to her than a pretty face. Act like it!
ASK QUESTIONS. You ask questions when you’re curious about someone or something. If you don’t ask questions, she will rightfully assume that your interest lies below, and that you really have no interest in getting to know her personally. Have you ever read an interview? A good interviewer asks thoughtful questions, and doesn’t accept yes and no answers…EVER. Be engaging. Be present. Be inquisitive.
IF YOU WANT HER, GO AFTER HER. I would bet money that most guys complaining about not having a girl are afraid to approach. Most really good looking women rarely get asked out because most men either assume she’s already taken. WRONG. Or, they assume she will not be interested in THEM. WRONG (maybe lol). The bottom line is, you won’t know unless you try.
MAKE HER… Make her laugh, make her think or make her wonder. If you’re naturally witty, use that. If you’re an intellectual, start an interesting discussion. If you have nothing else going for yourself, or you have little to no personality, make her wonder why you haven’t hit on her. This approach can be used on someone you see regularly at the gym, church or even work (even though you know I don’t condone workplace romances). If she’s a looker, she will wonder why you’re always so polite, you speak and even compliment her hair on occasion, but you’ve never tried to get at her like all the others. Being a mystery works well with extremely good looking women. If you can mask your thirst for her long enough to reel her in, you win.
PLAN DATES. Planning dates is a lost art (dinner doesn’t count). I’m talking about doing some activity like going to an art walk or a play, which takes into consideration her interests and personality. Basically, a great date involves doing something that will insight some sort of discussion so that you can begin to understand how your date thinks and feels about different issues and topics.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE A FOOL. Don’t be too cool to let her know how much you like her. Don’t be too cool to call the next day. Don’t be too cool to say ‘I love you,’ if that’s how you feel. Don’t be too cool to fall in love. Don’t be too cool to court her. I CANNOT stand the “too cool for school” guy. It’s SO John Travolta in Grease.
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Ladies, what would you add? Do you agree/disagree with any of the points above?