First of all, men should not be taking advice from other men about women, and women should not take advice from other women about men. It’s often “the blind leading the blind.” Women are notorious for this, but men also write letters to the editors of men’s magazines, seeking male advice on relationships, sometimes wondering if they were told to “kick rocks” because they were too nice. To make matters worse, the men they ask usually reassure them that they did, in fact, get dumped because they were too nice, when this was probably not the case at all. I am so over the “nice guys finish last” cop-out. Nice guys DO NOT finish last. Nice, UNATTRACTIVE guys finish last.
I’m sorry, it needed to be said, and now that I’ve said it, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Now, when I say unattractive, I’m not just talking about looks. Maybe you have long, dirty fingernails or you’re annoying. Whatever the case may be, I’m tired of men that are constantly getting dumped blaming it on the fact that they were ” too nice” in order to save face. They’re always
whining saying, “women don’t want a good man, they want a man that treats them like crap.” Why would we want this? It just so happens that the men we are attracted to sometimes turn out to be jerks. But, there is a difference. No woman would knowingly date a jerk (I can’t speak for groupies). More than likely, the guy came off as a “nice” guy when they met, and later showed his true colors, but by then, she was already sprung.
Still not convinced? Then, read on…
Let’s say, I don’t know, an Olivier Martinez look-alike (accent and all) walked up to me on the street and was as sweet as pie. We talked and laughed, and he expressed a genuine interest in dating me. He asked me for my number and called the NEXT day and asked me out. I happily agreed. On our first date, he showed up at my door with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and escorted me to a swanky 5-star restaurant with an ocean view. All night, he told me how beautiful and funny I am, and how happy he was that I agreed to go out with him. After dinner, let’s just say for the sake of argument, he gave me a nice, long massage (with no funny business). After the massage, he thanked me for a wonderful evening, gave me a nice long kiss goodnight and left. Do you honestly think I, or any other woman, would NOT want to go out with him again simply because he was “too nice?” I’m sure now you see my point.
Unfortunately, some women can be just as superficial and shallow as men. So, ‘nice, unattractive guy who finishes last,’ please stop running around telling other men that nice guys finish last, and be honest with yourself. More than likely, you didn’t get dumped because you were “too nice,” she just wasn’t that into you. #dontshootthe messenger