In keeping with my lesson for the month (or year, or however long it takes for men to GET IT) that Real Men Lead, I feel it is necessary to address the childishness and immaturity of the illusive “male code.”
What kind of “grade school, merry-go-round, I bet I can sleep with more girls than you” kind of crap is this? Who created this “code” and why does abiding by it require
boys men to be shady and incongruous? I am certain that sprinkled throughout this code, you will find phrases like “bros before hoes” and “ain’t no fun if the homies can’t have none,” and possibly even crib notes. But oddly, most of the men who swear by the code are well into their 20s and 30s, which makes this quite disturbing.
Kobe Bryant seems to be the celebrity with the most violations to date, and I can actually agree that Kobe’s actions were indeed pansy-like in nature because he snitched. Snitching is something people do to limit or avoid suffering the consequences of their own actions. In this particular situation (see below), that was not the case.
My current frustration with the male code stems from a letter that was written by a woman asking for advice from male bloggers, in which it was divulged that a man who became platonic friends with his best friend’s girlfriend told his best friend’s girlfriend that his best friend is, in fact, married, but was separated when they met, and has recently decided to reconcile with his estranged wife (I know, confusing). He had nothing to gain by telling her this, as he is engaged, and does not appear to be romantically interested in this woman at all. So, why the guy’s actions thereafter were discredited, and his motives questioned by most of the male readers, is beyond me. They all cried foul, and I don’t understand why. It’s not like the guy told his best friend’s wife that he had been seeing someone while they were apart. He simply informed the “chick on the side” that she is in fact “the chick on the side” probably because he has a heart, and maybe morals and values too!
Guys, is it possible that your fellow man was just raised
better than you correctly? And maybe, just maybe, he also respects women and the sanctity of marriage, and actually hates to see others suffer (even if she is of the opposite sex)? Women are not the enemy, and any man who sees us as such (most likely any man over 21 who follows the “male code”) has serious issues and needs to ask themselves why they hate women so much. After asking themselves why they hate women so much, they should take the necessary steps to GTFU (I’m confident you all will figure out what this means).
Phew! I had to get that out…as you were.