From what I hear, men view the friend zone as sort of a black hole. They don’t know how they got there, why they’re there or how to get out. Women, on the other hand, are far more willing to play the “friend” to win over the guy they’ve been crushing on for months, maybe even years. Men shouldn’t be so hasty when it comes to being friend zoned. Sometimes, playing your position can ultimately get you the girl. Here are 6 reasons why being placed in the friend zone isn’t always as bad as it seems.
You can really get to know your crush and decide whether she was all that you thought she would be. Think about it, she isn’t trying to impress you because you’re her friend. Chances are you’re getting to know the REAL her, and you may realize she’s not really the person for you after all.
You can be YOURSELF. Being friends takes away the complications involved with dating. Although you will probably always put your best foot forward when she’s around, if she’s not sizing you up as potential boyfriend material, you will feel more comfortable being who you really are, as well.
Being in the friend zone is like being in the opposing team’s locker room, and accessing their playbook before the game. As her friend, she will likely discuss current and past relationships with you candidly and share things with you she would NEVER share with a potential mate. You know how she thinks and feels about certain behavior, and if the opportunity ever arises for you to get off the bench, you will already know how to win the game.
Sex complicates things. It almost instantaneously changes the way you feel about your partner, sometimes positively and sometimes negatively. Taking sex out of the equation allows both parties to make sound judgments about how they feel. Friendship first is the best way to delay sexual relations and allow a true bond to form. Unfortunately, holding off on sex is more difficult to do when there is mutual physical or chemical attraction.
She actually likes you. If you’re always there for her, and she enjoys your company, she will begin to become “attached” to you, just in a different way than if you two were in a relationship. Women are interesting creatures who can be swayed by kindness and quiet persistence. Eventually that “attachment” may turn into love and respect, which can ultimately lead to romantic love and a relationship, or even marriage.
You can still date without any hard feelings. While being her friend only requires an occasional call here, and a visit to the local karaoke bar there, actually dating this woman will require more of your time and effort – oh and money. You’ll be jumping through MAJOR hoops to impress her and at the end of the day, you may walk away empty-handed. Use this time to date others, and you might just meet someone else who sees you as more than a friend, and with whom you may be more compatible.
The bottom line is, an overly aggressive attempt to get a girl to like you as soon as you express interest in her is almost always a turnoff. If she does not reciprocate, but you sincerely are a great guy, and you feel she’s a great girl, and worth the wait, politely take your place in the friend zone. You never know where things could go.
Love is blind; Friendship closes its eyes. –Unknown