Would you want to be with the most beautiful woman in the world or the most powerful woman in the world? I only ask because since Michelle Obama became the First Lady, I have heard many men state that they want “a Michelle.” Obviously, they don’t actually want Michelle Obama, but they want a woman like her who exudes confidence and grace – a woman who possesses many of the same qualities and attributes as Michelle Obama, and the same ability to motivate and empower them the way Michelle did Barack. Yet, in the same breath, they will say they want (and I quote her husband, Jay Z, directly) “a blonde with a fat ass who can sing a song,” which presumably refers
distastefully to his wife, Beyonce. Unfortunately though, you can’t have both.
Although Michelle Obama and Beyonce may possess some of the same qualities, most of what makes them who and what they are is mutually exclusive. Certain personality traits cannot co-exist within one individual. For instance, you can’t have a woman who is both independent and needy. Either she will be able to stand on her own two feet or she won’t. You won’t find a conservative woman who just so happens to love dancing on tables and poles and giving lap dances. It’s just not realistic.
There is no right or wrong answer, and neither is factually more or less desirable. It simply depends on your preference. A Beyonce could never be a Michelle and vice versa, so it is important to decide which type of woman best suits your lifestyle and determine who would best enhance your strengths and balance out your weaknesses.
So, what’s the difference between the two? It is no secret that the two admire each other greatly for the simple fact that each possesses qualities that the other wishes they had. Michelle appreciates Beyonce’s style and talent, while Beyonce appreciates Michelle’s intelligence and strength.
Beyonce is basically a product of the entertainment industry. She has had no real formal education, as she became the lead singer of Destiny’s Child at the ripe age of 15. For most of her life, she has been told what to say, what to think, where to be and how to act. Additionally, she dated her husband Jay Z (who is almost 12 years her senior) nearly 10 years before marrying him. He met her at an impressionable age, 18, and as a result, I’m sure he’s had quite an impact on her development as an individual, and also as a wife.
Michelle, on the other hand, was a high-powered attorney when she met Barack Obama. She graduated at the top of her class from Princeton, received her juris doctorate from Harvard, and met the President when she was well into her 20s. Michelle lived quite a bit and had already formed her own opinion about many things prior to meeting her future husband. While I’m sure Barack had some influence on her thoughts and ideas, it is less likely that his influence shaped who Michelle is as an individual today.
I perceive “a Michelle” to be smart, supportive, opinionated, strong-willed, assertive, ambitious, intellectually stimulating, outspoken, independent, reserved and opinionated. Whereas, I perceive “a Beyonce” to be more passive, but also supportive, docile, easygoing, agreeable, liberal, materialistic and malleable. As you can see, I still do believe Michelle and Beyonce may possess a few of the same qualities, but for the most part, they are completely different in terms of what they bring to the table in a relationship.
I suppose the moral of the story is, know what you want and need in a mate, but understand that no woman can be both “a Michelle” and “a Beyonce.” To some men, together, these women would create the perfect mate, but to their respective mates, alone, these women embody everything their husbands need.
Guys, do you think you can have it all? A woman who embodies the qualities of both Michelle Obama and Beyonce? Which would you prefer if you could only choose one?