A sad, but harsh reality is that Angelinos, for many reasons, are having difficulty finding satisfying and long-lasting relationships. While listening to Ryan Seacrest’s radio show on my way to work this morning, a female caller uttered these very words after being asked if she was single, “I’m forever single, I live in L.A.,” just before explaining that she caught her boyfriend cheating and how she AND their daughter hadn’t heard from him in 6 years. Her daughter being 6 years old, this means he left when she was just a baby, which makes this story even more disheartening. Her sister, who was also on the line, was then prodded to share her story about how her husband left her for her best friend. Both were trying to be positive, but you could hear it in their tone – they had basically given up on ever finding love in La La Land.
Stories like these are by no means rare, but are they more prevalent in certain regions of the country? Many women I know, have dated, but have not had a real boyfriend in years, some 10 or more. Let’s explore some of the reasons why I think dating in L.A. may differ from dating in other areas.
The people here are extremely body conscious, some plastic, but beautiful nonetheless. They come from all walks of life, countries, villages and towns. It’s like being a kid in a candy store here for both men and women – it’s hard to choose just one. Furthermore, people here strive for perfection as though it actually exists.
The Land of Opportunity
L.A. is just that in more ways than one. Many flock here in hopes of being discovered and becoming the next big thing, but only a small minority of people actually fulfill those dreams . Average Joes and Plain Janes have high hopes of meeting and dating celebrities way out of their league, believing that access to them, means they actually stand a chance. This hope gives both men and women here unrealistic expectations as to their perceived “options”.
L.A. is very spread out, unlike cities such as New York and D.C, so most people drive. This significantly limits the opportunity to meet people while out and about, aside from meeting them at your final destination, wherever that may be (work, school, church, etc.).
Out of Towners
As a native, I can honestly say that people that are actually born and raised in L.A. are cool people. Out of Towners take on what THEY think is the persona of Angelinos, which is likely based on what they’ve seen on TV or in film. I would also venture to say that most Angelinos are not natives.
They are a special breed. I will be interested to see this anomaly explored further in the upcoming show, I Hate L.A. Dudes by Awkward Black Girl producer, Issa Rae, and power director/producer, Shonda Rimes. Having dated several L.A. Dudes and those from other parts of the country, I would say the major difference is their sense of entitlement and their outlook on life. Most here place a higher value on wealth and appearance rather than family and love.
Are the majority of Angelinos destined to be “forever single?” Are we experiencing the same problems as others or is it more difficult to date here than elsewhere?