By Kevin Thompson
There’s never really a good time for a breakup. But if you got dumped during the holidays, it might become especially hard for you since you don’t really have time to work through your feelings and process your emotions. Hopefully these tips will help you get through this difficult time.
1. Don’t Try to Bottle up your Emotions
Let yourself feel whatever emotions arise from within you. Give yourself some time to process the emotions. If that means taking a couple days off work and staying at home; then so be it. Grief is a natural reaction to a breakup and you should not try to avoid it. However, you should make sure you balance out the grieving with a little self-reward.
2. Do Something to Make Yourself Feel Better
Grieving is hard work and it will take a toll on your mind and body. You should make sure you balance it out by rewarding yourself with something you enjoy. Go to a spa, or take a relaxing bath or maybe reward yourself by going on a shopping spree. Just make sure you are not rewarding yourself with something unhealthy.
3. Don’t Use It as an Excuse for an Unhealthy Lifestyle
A lot of people use drugs or alcohol to cope with the breakup. But in reality, you are not really coping with your feelings by numbing your mind; you are just running away from them. Alcohol and drugs are to breakups what a bandage is to a broken bone; it will numb you for a while, but it will not heal the injury. Similarly, junk food is going to make you feel worse in the long run. Especially, if the only thing you are eating is a big bowl of ice cream.
4. Stop All Communication with Your Ex
Your ex has been with you through the ups and downs of the relationship, but now it’s over. He is not going to help you through the ups and downs of the breakup. In fact, he is only going to stop you from moving on. If you are thinking about trying to get back together with your ex, then you are probably just going through the “Bargaining Stage of the Grief Process.”
It’s best to stay away from your ex until you are completely over him. Your mind will try to make you believe that contacting him will ease the pain, but in reality, it will only make it harder for you. Do not let your mind manipulate you into contacting him.
5. Enjoy the Holiday Season While Giving Yourself Some Space
It might become hard to go through the holiday season with your mind completely wrapped up in the useless details of the breakup and your relationship. Remember, your ex was an important part of life. But, the people you are spending the holidays with are still in your life. Do not let your past ruin the present moment. Try to stay positive around your friends and family and don’t shut them off because of your breakup. Find a balance between giving yourself space and spending time with family.
After realizing an amazing opportunity for growth and self-discovery following a painful breakup, Kevin Thompson dedicated his life to helping others find their own post-breakup way toward health, growth and moving on. To read more of his work, visit Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/kevin.breakups or follow him on Twitter @thompkevin123.